Saturday, November 6, 2010
We asked, she answered
Then I opened the email. It came a mere four hours after I placed the ad. I'm thinking that was a fast response. And it was a good one.
The woman basically explained that she was interested in finding a couple she could have some fun with. She talked about what she was looking for and how it matched with our ad. She didn't want a relationship either.
So, I contacted my man. And here's what's interesting. Most of the time, we never talk during the day. We don't flirt. We don't call without reason. We aren't playful. It is all business. This is a learned behavior that has developed from the beginning of our relationship. He always made it clear that he couldn't just talk on the phone during the day because he was busy. There had to be a point, a purpose to his calls. And on days that he wasn't working, he liked the down time, the quiet, the away from me to be by himself. So, we rarely talked.
I hated it. I didn't feel close to him so much of the time because of it. It made me feel like I was grasping to be with him every moment and like he was pulling away. I need intimacy in all its many forms.
Things changed so quickly between us. Good things. Suddenly, as I was emailing this chick, trying to get to know her, see if we could agree to some terms, see if we were actually going to meet up, we grew closer.
Suddenly, this man who rarely texted me, wasn't really playful, was a bit standoffish at times became intimate. He would text me if he hadn't heard from me in a few hours. I sent him a sexy text here and there, letting him know that I was horny or excited or I simply wanted him. And as we worked out the details, we were building an even tighter bond.
Suddenly, this man who went a month without having sex with me was having sex with me two and three times a day. And good sex. Really good sex. Amazing sex. Nothing had happened yet everything was better.
Let me tell you all about it.