Friday, December 3, 2010

It's raining opportunities

And we don't seem to be going after any of them.

In some ways, I understand why.  He's focused on work right now.  He's focused on trying to find work.  Business has been abysmally slow.  And it is creating a great deal of stress.

I don't know about you, but when I am under stress, there's nothing I like better than some amazing sex.  Sex makes me feel better.  And--it's free!

Yes, it is free entertainment.  We can go in the bedroom, have an incredible romp, forget about our troubles for a little while and bond.  I love the intimacy that comes from some great sex.

Only he's different from me.  Stress affects his sex drive.  And when he's stressed, there's no sex.  Nope.  We're not having sex right now.

We went from having TONS of sex, wake up in the middle of the night because I had to have you sex, can't wait for you to come home from work because I need to have you sex, let's not leave the house all weekend because all I want to do is take you every way possible sex, to no sex.  NO SEX.

And let me tell you about sex-less Lexi.  She's a bitch.  She is tense.  She is over-sensitive.  She hates life.  She feels disconnected.  She feels empty and alone, unloved and unwanted.  She struggles not to run.  She struggles not to make a colossal mistake.  It's all she can do to not take a misterer.

I am a very sexual being.  Always have been.  Always will be.  And I need some.  Yesterday.  Hell, I need some every day.

So, how do I get him back on board?  I sent him sext messages today offering blow jobs and even the elusive butt hole.  (A rare and special gift, I assure you.)  He replied that I was nasty.  And given his lack of contact, I don't think he meant it in that really great way.

Any advice will be great appreciated and taken.


  1. Hi Lexi,
    I can understand your frustration. BUT, I also understand you mans issues... This last week, I've been stressing about the lack of work as well. I have money, I can do what I want, but when there is a lack of work, then I can't "replace" the money I spend and I feel less than. Work comes and goes but when a man that is providing or wants to provide, can't do EVERYTHING he wants to do without feeling guilty, it affects him in ways that women don't understand... when the head isn't into it... the "little Head" isn't either. Most men need to have their head into it to keep that little guy hard. My GF is going through the same thing you are right now. I hear it in her comments, I see it in her actions... I've been in a funk and she doesn't understand that it isn't "Her" its just a temporary thing that I'm going through and will be over it soon.
    Go hang with some friends, do something for yourself. Don't do something that will ruin a good thing just because you man is having a tough time right now.
    This time of the year is rough for me, my ex served me with divorce papers one week before Christmas/my Birthday.

    This too Shall Pass, and then the sex will be as Good and New as it was before.
    Just hang in there... that's why god made vibrators!!!


  2. Thanks for the encouragement, KC. I would never do anything to jeopardize what we have. I know how truly special it is. I just get frustrated. Thank you for understanding and allowing my vent.

    Big hugs!

  3. KC,

    PS. I'm sorry to hear that you are struggling right now. Wishing you the best. And don't forget to keep your girlfriend close right now, even though the instinct is to push her away. She'll be a real comfort, if you let her. :)